I guess you can count me in the perpetual learning stage, because sometimes I do have the worst experiences. Let me rephrase that sometimes I have experiences that are extremely painful but produce much growth. I honestly think that before we all came here we made certain commitments to each other to help each other. I know I have people in my life that were totally there for me and helped me even when I was undeserving in those experiences. I also believe that the adversary knows us and can totally make any experience seem like it is endless torture and there is no solution that will make it any better. It is in those moments of overwhelming grief and pain that we can then better relate to our Savior. He descended below us all. He suffered even when he was innocent. Not that it is any consolation but he was the best person who ever walked this planet and isn’t it nice that we don’t have to have His experiences and that we don’t have to experience the full weight of pain or grief. He did that for us. He bore our burdens. There are certainly moments where the weight of the world is on our shoulders but it doesn’t have to be that way. We choose if we are happy or sad even in spite of what is going on around us. I know the hardest to deal with is the grief of missing someone who was important to us. I don’t think that there is much difference between if it was expected or unexpected. I think it is difficult no matter the cause or the timing. I didn’t expect to lose my father even though he had told me a few weeks before it happened, it still came as a shock. The waves of grief come and go and you just have to allow yourself that moment to grief. It’s just a reflection of love for that person that will never go away, and so I have my moments of missing the important to me people.